Tuesday, September 1, 2020

The story of "John and Anita"

So, I read an interesting story the other day, it was about how some people have relationships because they are bored with the lack of passion and purpose in their own lives, and rather than looking within to find out why they feel that way, they get involved in a love affair and make that their purpose. I know someone in Second Life exactly like that and he carried this over to Real Life. 

It is sad to me that this person escaped twice the abuse of women from his failed marriages. Let's call him "John". John has been in Second Life for over 12 years with many different avatar names and many many women he met along the way. Too many individuals only get married because they are desperate or lonely. Dr. Angelis is right when she says "when you are feeling lonely or desperate, you are much more likely to make poor love choices and end up in unfulfilling relationships." A lonely and desperate person will remain lonely after marriage. Some people are so emotionally empty that they are desperate for anyone to marry. In the end, these persons end up in a painful relationship.

Maybe that is why many men are in Second Life because of their unhappy relationships? Who knows. John failed all relationships in Second Life as well as in Real Life. Although he claims that he is now finally happily married in Real Life and in Second Life to the same person and if that is true, it would be great news. His new wife, let's call her "Anita" comes from a different country, who most likely seeks to be in a country that she normally may not be able to stay, but through marriage, she can. If you have deep places of emptiness within you, no partner, regardless of how much they love you, will be able to fill that emptiness.

Don't rush into things just because you are lonely. If you are unhappy and single, you'll probably be unhappy and married, too. Marriage does not fix personal, psychological, and emotional problems. If anything, marriage will exacerbate them.

If you are not happy with yourself and your life, take responsibility to fix it now while you are single. You'll feel better, and your future spouse will thank you.

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