idiomatic expression

"That's it, I am putting my foot down."

Putting your foot down in German literally means to put your foot down on something or someone compared to the American English that refers to refuse very firmly to do or accept something. In the British way of saying it, this would mean to drive faster as you are putting your foot down.

I have read that some new trend words in the English language include gaslighting, which means to manipulate someone psychologically so that they begin to question their own perceptions and memories. I could swear that people at work gaslight me to make me believe that I can complete paperwork in half of the time that is normal or even physically possible.

"what a dench dude"

English speakers seem to have an endless fascination for inventing expressions of approval. This time we're in shiny, brand-spanking new word territory (cue drum roll, this happens very rarely) with the arrival of dench. So instead of saying he is so cool or nice, I could now say he is extremely dench. ( he actually is, trust me on that).
It's perhaps doubtful that dench would have succeeded as a new coinage were it not for the fact that it happens to be identical to the surname of Dame Judi Dench, a world-famous British actress latterly associated with the James Bond movies (in which she played 'M', head of the intelligence service). Dame Judi has herself been a very enthusiastic supporter of the word, honored and delighted that her surname is being used as a trendy new adjective. Though this is coincidental rather than deliberate, the actress's positive reaction (and perhaps also the fact that she is recognized the world over as a highly respected and successful individual) has sparked tongue-in-cheek modifications of usage along the lines of That was well Judi dench … or even … That's well Judi.

"what an amazeball adventure"

I guess when something is better than amazing it is called amazeballs. Really? Who thinks those words up? Though English is a language rich in synonymy and has a whole raft of adjectives designed to show enthusiastic approval of something – think amazing, fabulous, fantastic, gorgeous, lovely, wonderful, breathtaking, sensational, phenomenal … and that's only just the tip of the iceberg – it seems there's a perpetual desire to come up with something catchy and new, and one of the most recent kids on the block is this rather bizarre adaptation of the adjective amazing into amazeballs.

It all reminds me when I took my first art class in college and my final project was described as "wow that is bad". I cried going home really believing that my painting was bad. Of course, it meant good, but hey give this German girl a break. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Oh yes, in German we do have many ways of saying things as well but really would I just "um den heißen Brei herumreden"?

The Basement Club- 3 years

Finally, all the renovations to the Basement Club have been completed and we are up and running to hold sets and events. The Basement Club is located under the Retreat Gallery ( which is a must see and you can reach that by either using the Retreat landmark or use the TP from the club).
Remember here in the Basement we play music that you may not hear elsewhere. Tired of all the rock? This will be the place for you then.

The Basement Club is a cozy hangout where you can dance, listen to music, or just talk to friends. Play the hangman game at the bar and see how many you can get right.

April 2 is the 3rd anniversary of the Basement Club, woot!!!

We also have 2 new DJs that have joined us and let me tell you they are good. You must check out the shows for you.
Here is the schedule so far:

Thursday 8-10 PM SLT DJ Likka INDIE Tunes
Saturday 6-8 PM SLT DJ Karyn PUNK and Alternative
Sunday 7-9 PM DJ Grum INDIE and Alternative

We will have DJ Dandy and DJ Ryker join us very soon as well.

DJ Grum :)

Come and check it out and tell your friends, you will not be disappointed.

Grum, showing off his alien skills

DJ Karyn

Mental Workout

always photobomb his pictures

Giving your brain new experiences will keep it healthier. Try these mini mental workout exercises to prevent memory loss and sharpen your mind.

Number 1: Art activates the nonverbal and emotional parts of the cerebral cortex. When you create art, you draw on parts of your brain interested in forms, colors, and textures, as well as thought processes very different from the logical, linear thinking that occupies most of your day.

Take little breaks in between

Number 2: Because our brains regularly rely on visual cues to distinguish between objects, using touch to identify subtly different things increases activation in cortical areas that process tactile information and leads to stronger synapses. (Similarly, adults who lose their sight learn to distinguish Braille letters because their brain devotes more pathways to processing fine touch.) Brain exercise: Place a cup full of coins in your car’s drink holder. While at a stoplight, trying to determine the denominations by feel alone. You can also put coins in your pocket, and identify them when you stop at a corner.

I think he was visualizing 

Number 3: Stores are designed to have the most profitable items at eye level, and when you shop you don’t really see everything there. Brain exercise: Stop in any aisle and look at the shelves, top to bottom. If there’s something you’ve never seen before, pick it up, read the ingredients, and think about it. You don’t have to buy it to benefit; you’ve broken your routine and experienced something new.

Number 4: When you are ready to go to sleep, go over what you did that day from the time you got up until you get into bed. Start with the time you awoke, got out of bed, follow your entire day step by step until the time you went back to bed. Try to recall as much detail as possible, visualizing in your mind each and every step from beginning to end.

In the beginning, you probably won't remember much detail, and you’ll probably move rapidly from task to task or think of the day in large periods of time.  However, try to slow down and remember as much as you can to take in as much detail as you can. With time and practice, you will notice a significant improvement in your recall of events and details throughout the day.

How to save a ton of lindens you can use for gacha shopping.

Let's say that special someone asked you " the question", you know the one all ladies or even guys wait for. All of a sudden you think:" oh no that is gonna cost so many Lindens." Well, it does not have to be costly at all.

All it takes is a little planning the two of you. So there is a venue, dress and a tux to consider. Here are some tips to make it easier for you.

The Retreat has a beautiful wedding chapel for you to use. No charge at all, just a donation would be nice. You need the officiant, we have them here as well...no big charge at all. Need the reception after that, come to the Basement Club for a party and DJ live music. 

Now, about the dress...come on ladies you really do not want to spend thousands of lindens on a dress you wear one time (unless you plan to get married several times in second life you could revamp it). I found this lovely dress at the fifty lindens Friday sale at Junebug. It is really a lovely dress and I can wear this as an evening gown for any formal event. (A girl has to be on a budget here, with a sale like that I can buy some more gachas and decorate the home sweet home, wink).

Oh and the tux, well most guys already have one in their inventory. Let's face it, all suits look the same, they consist of a shirt, a jacket, and some pants...

See, and you saved a ton of lindens so you can spend them on other things including gachas.

Of course you want to be the queen!

Let's get this right, the queen gets what she wants because she is always the one who is in charge. Women should be treated like queens. They do so much and deserve all the respect. Do not even think that they are weaker than then guys because they are not.  Women are stronger and tougher than men. Some men, who are less educated and knowledgeable, may not agree with this, but they would be wrong.  

So, there is no need to fight it and just let her take over. An alien landing on earth for the first time may easily form the opinion that the larger male of our species is biologically superior to the female. But on closer inspection, he would find that biological advantages and disadvantages are more or less equally distributed between the sexes. Women produce more antibodies and at a quicker rate than men, and have more white blood cells. For these reasons, they develop fewer infectious diseases and succumb for shorter periods. Man-flu is not a myth! (sissy boys they are).

Women are stronger than they think. Women are stronger than men give them credit for. The stuff that women go through is not the stuff of babies. Most men wouldn’t survive half of what women endure. Therefore, the queen rules and is always on top. Got it?

Obedience is very important to any queen and those who are close to the queen should always obey.

Fill your glass up with "joy"

Sometimes you just have to be in charge and control certain things. It is easy to forget that happiness really does come from within. We sometimes get off track and rely on external sources to fill our so-called half empty glass. We also tend to resort to short-term happiness to feel fulfilled. Yes, it may help for a while, but if we continue to do these things, we will never be content.

One of the reasons we get burned out is because we don't have enough balance in our lives, and when we’re super-busy, self-care is typically the first thing we cut from our schedules. Ironically, the times when we’re most busy are probably when we need self-care the most. Start to reprioritize your schedule and make room for activities you enjoy so you can find a healthier balance.

Positive social connections are a cornerstone of happiness and health. A conversation with a friend can have a lasting positive effect, increasing your energy and cultivating motivation. In fact, simply belonging to a social group or having a minimal personal connection with another person creates lasting and significant drive. So hang out with your favorite friend as often as you can. 

Before you know it you jump for joy. Laughter, after all, is the best medicine in so many ways to get you into the right frame of mind. You should laugh really hard every day as often as you can.

He should always treat you like the queen you are. Because you are worth it and you deserve it.

No need for plans

Just take my hand
No need for plans
Hey, won't you run away with me
I've got a feeling we were meant to be (friends of course - what did you think?)
We could go to New York or down to Mexico, take a movie in and just lay low, doesn't matter what we do, just me and you and the cat. So many places we could go. 

Just come with me let's hit the road. Hey, won't you run away with me?

When we talk, you say it (not sure yet what that is) softly But I love it when you're awfully quiet. (Ha, you are never quiet)

And I know it makes you nervous But I promise you, it's worth it (it will be ) To show 'em everything you kept inside Don't hide, don't hide ( better not) Too shy to say, but I hope you stay Don't hide away Come out and play...with me?

The universe loves a believer.

To achieve what you want in life, you have to build your belief in yourself. At the same time, though, it’s critical that, whatever level you reach, you maintain humility. We all start out as kids with big dreams; we want to be movie stars, astronauts and sports superstars. We want to be somebody. But then we get out into the real world and it starts beating us down, and then we start beating ourselves down. We get to the point where we have little or no belief in ourselves.

The voices in our heads aren’t always positive. In fact, it’s often that negative inner voice that sounds the loudest. I’m so stupid, I never get things done, I’m going to fail—again. Don’t do that. Think about what you’re thinking about and what you’re allowing to happen in your mind. Pay attention to your mindset. If you’re putting yourself down, reverse those thoughts and try focusing on your positive traits. We all have them. What you think about yourself is influencing the results you’re getting in every area of life.

Most of the things we worry about don’t really matter. The universe loves a believer. You must be your biggest fan. You need to believe you can do anything so that others will believe you too. The key is to be true to yourself, to be true to the very best that is in you, and to live your life consistent with your highest values and aspirations.

Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday

If you find yourself wasting time worrying about things you can't control, here are six things that can help:

1. Determine what you can control. ...
2. Focus on your influence. ...
3. Identify your fears. ...
4. Differentiate between ruminating and problem-solving. ...
5. Create a plan to manage your stress. ...
6. Develop healthy affirmations.

Take out our most creative side, make us take a step forward and respond in an efficient and effective way to situations that subject us to stress.

Making our stress positive stress makes us feel more alive and full of energy to face the activity and development of the day today.

The Eustress does not affect our health negatively but quite the opposite;

It prevents us from feeling overwhelmed by the situations that generate negative stress.

Always take the scenic route

Suspended under a twilight canopy

We'll search the clouds for a star to guide us

If by some chance you find yourself loving me

We'll find a cloud to hide us

We'll keep the moon beside us

Up, up, and away. Sometimes, it's just easier to have your head in the clouds — to dream, wonder, and use your imagination. In those moments, every average situation turns into an exciting adventure, and mountains appear to be much smaller. 

“Don’t miss all the beautiful colors of the rainbow looking for that pot of gold.” ~Unknown

Have you noticed that time seems to go by faster as you get older? Holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries all come and go—and before we know it, here they come again.

We waste a lot of time worrying about finding the right outfit or making our hair look just right to be “presentable” If you want to wear a muumuu with tennis shoes, do it! Live in the moment and smell the roses.

I wish it was that simple....

My friends, they wanna take me to the movies
I tell 'em to fuck off, I'm holding hands with my depression
And right when I think I've overcome it
Anxiety starts kicking in to teach that shit a lesson
Oh, I try my best just to be social
I make all these plans with friends and hope they call and cancel
Then I overthink about the things I’m missing
Now I'm wishing I was with 'em

Feel like I'm always apologizing for feeling
Like I'm out of my mind when I'm doing just fine
And my exes all say that I'm hard to deal with
And I admit it, yeah

But all my friends, they don't know what it's like, what it's like
They don't understand why I can't sleep through the night
I've been told that I could take something to fix it
Damn, I wish it, I wish it was that simple, ah
All my friends don't know what it's like, what it's like

Always wanted to be one of those people in the room
That says something and everyone puts their hand up
Like, "If you're sad put your hand up
If you hate someone, put your hand up
If you're scared, put your hand up"

I got all these thoughts, running through my mind
All the damn time and I can't seem to shut it off
I think I'm doing fine most of the time
I think that I'm alright, but I can't seem to shut it off
I got all these thoughts, running through my mind
All the damn time and I can't seem to shut it off
I think I'm doing fine most of the time
I say that I'm alright, but I can't seem to shut it off
Shut it, shut it, yeah