Are You Sabotaging Yourself?...

When we fall prey to rumination, we intensify the stress we are already feeling by focusing on the negative and continually reliving it. When we're in this pattern of thinking, our focus is more on what went wrong than on what we can do to fix things.

...too much stimulation via the WWW is what keeps me up...there is Pinterest you know...

I always want to fix things and make them better, but I know I can only fix me. Stress can also impact our ability to get quality sleep. But by practicing good sleep hygiene, such as avoiding using televisions or computers before bed, going to bed at the same time every night, and darkening the room, you can get better sleep.

Maybe some chamomile teas this time instead of diet coke...

What you eat can impact how you feel. Just as lost sleep can impact your reactivity, so can the wrong diet. If you have ever crashed from a caffeine high or a sugar rush, you already instinctively know this.
Music holds the power to put us directly back into to a place when we listened to it, usually entering into the mood we were in when we listened and then the pieces of memory fill in with people and situations. Maybe life was not perfect, but the music makes me feel good when I hear it." Is there a time frame or type of music that puts your memory back into a good place?

Be proactive in trying to solve your problems. 
First, identify problems in your life and then start taking actions to solve your problems, one step at a time.
Set your own expectations. 
Negative ruminating thoughts can creep in when we question our self-worth. Praise yourself for your successes and forgive yourself for your mistakes. Constantly work on building your self-esteem by taking care of yourself and doing things you enjoy and excel at.
Create a support system. 
Having friends and family members, and maybe even a therapist, any of whom you can call on for help when something goes wrong or when you’re having a bad day, is so important. These special people may distract you from your ruminating thoughts and are also likely to boost your self-esteem.

The White Aura...

...maybe these are relatives???

Auras are fields of energy surrounding the human body, and every living thing on the planet. And Earth, itself, also has several fields of energy around it which protect its inhabitants. Auras around people tend to flicker with various colors which change according to our emotions and the energies around us. There is usually a predominant color at any given time.

...you have to have some balance in what you do...

A recent test about my aura revealed that I am mostly white with some silver as well. Not all of the description is true for me since I may be tarnished with some darker aura from the past.

Qualities of White and Silver

White is the purest color, in that it is comprised of all the colors of the spectrum. It reflects every other visible wavelength of light, even the ones only available to those people who have tetrachromacy (the ability to see extra colors). It is the equivalent of zero; it holds the potential for every other color and color quality. This means that it contains positive and negative in equal balance. 

I once took a trip to San Diego and a medium was doing a reading on my friend and he(his name was Alex) then asked me if I wanted one and I said no. He said, oh I see some abilities within you, you have a third eye. Sometimes when a psychic is connected to the spiritual realm, he or she will have a white or shimmering silver aura emanating from the crown or the third eye chakra.

If you have a white aura, you will have an incorruptible spirit and people will be drawn to you because it feels good to be near someone with a higher vibration. Because of this, you need to be aware of energy vampires; people with very low vibrational energy who need to sustain themselves by drawing energy from you. A shimmering silver aura generally means that you have well-developed psychic skills. Your connection to the realm of spirit is almost a constant one. You are able to tune in and out at will. You will also be sensitive to the auras of other people and, if you can’t actually see them, you could easily train yourself to do so.

Find out your Aura...and let me know what it reveals. 

The Toxic Digital World or is there life out there?

We live in a digital world; just short of being pixelated or virtual ourselves, the things around us continue to get smarter, faster, more connected becoming increasingly more digital. Customer relationships are digital; Business channels are digital; Our conversations are digital, and our social interactions are slowly being affected by this digital world.

It can be like a fallout of toxic rain if you are not careful. In a way, technology has made things easier for us to communicate and get information. There are negatives as well when the digital world has taken over the real-life world but also there are good points. There is life, this is our lives now, we live in this digital world.

~Conversations that now happen through social media and have taken the place of traditional interactions is causing people to leave their houses less and less since they do not need to leave to communicate with others. This can lead to social isolation. Essentially, instead of spending time in person with friends, we just call, text, instant message them or send a 10-second snapchat.~
(well yes but for those who cannot leave the house it is a great way to stay in touch.)

~Some people only lead lives in the virtual world in which they have even gotten married in online video games such as Second Life. Second life is a virtual world where avatars do the kind of stuff that real people do in life, however, some players even choose to get married online via this game.~ 
(yes and no)

~People who suffer from low self-esteem may continue to search for a feeling of worthiness online, paying more attention to their posts with low likes than high ones, because in spite of their need for positive feedback, they have the habit of confirming their negative self-image.~

I feel if that is what makes you happy and it brings you a smile and you feel so much better, why would it be wrong? Instead of finding the negative impact on this, why not turn it around and look for all the good in it. How else would you be able to read this blog? 
Exactly!!!

something new is coming

He has such great ideas...I know he just doesn't like my mess.

Grum always has the best ideas. Who would have thought a nifty alien, I mean elf can be soooo smart?  He is the one responsible that the Basement Club is back in the Basement and the Gallery is at the Retreat for everybody to enjoy. 

Something new is coming as well: The outside garden with dancing under the stars is completed. The chapel is going through some renovations. Rather than having weddings here, we will actually have a hang out for future DJ sets as well as other fun activities. The chapel is now called "The Unholy Chapel at the Retreat".

...taking things out and changing the chapel...wow it really is much bigger than I thought...

So stop by and see how the changes happen. Some of the gacha items that were here in the chapel are now available at the Priceless Gacha and treasures store. So go get them before they are gone.

Handy kind of elf to have around...thanks Grum for all your ideas and input :)

SL16B at the Spin masters Stage

It was such a great experience to be able to DJ at this event. Thank you, SL for letting me do this. 

I also want to thank all the people who showed up and danced and of course my friends: Grum, Dandy, Candi, and Draki...thank you guys for being there. HUGS!!!

Second Life is turning “Sweet Sixteen”

Wow! 16 years of this amazing, ever improving virtual world. I have been here for almost 8 years and I am still here.

It is time to take the bus to the events. There is lots of shopping, of course. Don't miss out of all the free gifts. 

When I first came to Second Life I wondered how the DJs streamed their music into SL. I wanted to learn to be a DJ, but I had no clue how this was done. So I learned and learned and learned some more.

And I became a DJ in Second Life. My first place was the Basement Club. I also have DJed at Runaround Sue's, The Leopard Lounge, Takahashi Coffee Bar and Music, The Club, and Totally 80s.

This year I do have the honor to DJ at the Second Life celebration. Mark your calendar 6-7 PM at the Spin Masters Stage on Monday, June 24. Stop by if you have time.

To Wait or Not?

If you start to think of your physical and moral condition, you usually find that you are sick.

It’s like buying a lottery ticket every Wednesday and Saturday and waiting in week after week for your numbers to come up. When people tell you you should come out, do something different, not play the numbers this week, you decline because you’re scared that the one time that you don’t is the one time that you’ll win. Your rationale is that life will begin once you win the lottery so you’ve invested yourself in the fantasy. Sometimes you win three or four numbers but you never hit the jackpot. One day you realize that you’ve literally wasted your life gambling on some seriously long odds. You thought the risk would be worth the reward but you end up regretting putting all of your eggs in a basket without a base…

If you’re waiting around for someone, you’re waiting for your numbers to come up. Unfortunately, the fact that you have to wait in itself demonstrates that there isn’t enough or anything going on right now.

Waiting around says “I don’t consider myself a valuable, worthwhile enough person to go and live my life without this person who doesn’t actually want me or the relationship I want with them. I’d rather fanny away my life and time that I don’t value hoping they’ll see the light because I don’t believe I can do better plus I’d rather avoid feeling ‘full’ rejection at any costs”.

Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.                  Johann Wolfgang von Goethe